I recently got told that I was viewing a potential relationship as a “whirlwind romantic fairytale”. My response? “I’m pretty sure fairytales don’t start with you cancelling our first date and showing up three hours late to the next one.” Take a second to ponder that one. (And yes, I had a reason for dealing with it.) But, after my response to him, I started wondering if fairytales do exist anymore. I think they do, they’re just packaged a little differently.
All Fairytales have three components that specifically stand out to me. The Princess. The Prince. The Obstacle.
Lets start with…
The Princess - That’s You! I think Women (Princesses) these days are completely different from the “traditional fairytale”. We are no longer Damsels in Distress we are Women on a Mission. We know what we want and we go after it. We don’t take no for an answer or fall for excuses. We can run a household and a company and look good doing it. Because of all these things, we have ALOT more power. With power comes decisions to decide who we are going to date and what we are going to put up with. I personally find that there are a lot of women I speak with who live in “Big Cities” that are single and focusing on themselves and their careers well into their 30s and really aren’t too worried about when their Prince will come along. They still want “The Prince” but they are much more focused on becoming Queens who will then find a King that they can be equally matched with.
The Prince - Just like the Princess has evolved, so has the Prince. No longer are we in the days where people will commit easily. And chime in if you think I’m wrong, but I think our “Princes” commit even less these days. Between all the different dating apps, there are almost TOO MANY options. What’s also interesting about Men these days is that they are also working equally as hard if not harder at their careers too. Do you think it’s because they fear a Female Rising?! Or is it just the way our world has changed? Between tech start-ups and the entrepreneurial spirit being alive and well, do they just have more pressures to find their own place in the world? Now we can’t put all men in the same box. I also feel males are just re-finding their place in a society where now they are expected (or should be) to be Feminist Men,, especially Millennial Men. And even though they don’t outwardly admit it, some of these guys still want the fairytale too, they’ve just realized the Princess has changed and therefore their game has changed too. Just remember, good men are out there we just may have to kiss a few more frogs to find them.
The Obstacle - In fairytales it’s the Wicked Step Mother, in real life it can be a variety of things. The most common obstacles I see these days are…
A. Waiting for a Better Option - So They Typically Don’t Commit (Darn You Dating Apps!)
B. Too Busy with Work or Friends - Or Maybe Just Too Busy for You (Hmmm…)
C. Non-Commital Sex - Hate to say it, but when there are soo many people doing it just to do it, why would anyone want to commit to just one person? Especially when there are so many options?! (Also Hmmm……)
D. Just Want To Be Single - Short and Sweet (Everyone Seems to be Finding Themselves These Days)
Obstacles in my opinion are just excuses that when you find the right person it won’t be a problem at all. And that’s really all I have to say about that.
So do Fairytales still exist? Yes. Are they different? Most Definitely Yes! Do I still want one? Yes, I want one. Doesn’t mean I want Cinderella’s story but I would like to be the Princess in my own Fairytale and that will be different for everyone because we are all growing and changing outside of the typical fairytales we all grew up with AND that’s a good thing! And, what’s great about these new rules is that you can write your own story and what can be better then that.
What are your thoughts on The Princess, The Prince, and The Obstacle? Tell me below, I’d love to hear.
Single. LA Living. Loves: Traveling, Fashion, and Beauty. Has A Really Cute Doggy. Constantly Navigating my Crazy Thoughts on Dating and Men. Ready for the Journey?