The Single Girls Guide on How to Handle Being Stood Up Not Once (But Twice) on the Same Weekend (Part 1)

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There is none.

But seriously, I wish I could say that I handled myself in textbook manner when being stood up the first time and then excelled with flying colors the second time it happened. BUT I can't. Being stood up SUCKS! And how'd I get so lucky to have this happen to me twice in one weekend? 

Let me share a bit about both situations and how I wish I acted instead.

The First Time.

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So, I guess in actuality this was my third time being stood up in the past 4 months or so. Twice by Mr. Woe is Me I'm about to tell you about. Woe is Me and I have known each other since college. After college, we parted ways but always interacted with each other on social media. One day we decided to take things 'to the next level' whatever that means. 

What I found out it meant was tons of excuses of how he was soooo busy at work (Entertainment Producer) and that we needed to keep things spontaneous for when we hung out.  So I tried that (which for me also a Producer is actually quite hard. I like to schedule my life amongst the chaos. At least loosely.) which meant after he forgot to tell me his plane was delayed (Can you believe that?) we then had a 'spontaneous hang out' because GOD FORBID we use the word date the following week at 11:30pm. 

I would've much rather been 10am MONDAY MORNING COFFEE GIRL.

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Why didn't I ditch him there you ask? Well, I thought I felt a spark?! It's kind of hard to tell when you meet at 11:30pm at a place you've chosen because Mr. Woe is Me is a horrible planner as well.

And we were friends in college right? I'll let it slide. He's not like this.

Until last Thursday.

Plans were in motion, I was dressed and ready to go and then he disappears. I didn't hear from him the whole rest of the night. His phone goes straight to VM and I'm thinking it's the plane situation all over again.

I spiraled.

First text: Hey, so where are we meeting again? I guess I missed that.

Second text: So you should be finished editing now right? You can't still be editing.

Phone Call: Goes straight to VM. I don't bother to leave a message.

Third Text: What's going on? You better not be standing me up again.

Fourth Text: Fuck You, don't ever contact me again. I can't believe I was dumb enough to let you stand me up twice.

*Not exact messages, but CLOSE ENOUGH.

Cue Waterworks. Cue Multiple Phone Calls with my Mom asking her "What's wrong with me?" you know that whole drill. 

Honestly, God Bless My Mom several times over please.

Before I give you "The Single Girl's Guide on How to Handle Being Stood Up Not Once (But Twice) on the Same Weekend " there's just a few more important details.

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So, Mr. Woe is Me texts me the next day saying blah blah blah blah blah blah blah. Well not exactly BUT I guess his phone froze AND AS A RESULT OF THAT he forgot he had a computer, a phone at work, and lots of social media channels he could've contacted me on.

I then engage. Yes, I know…I'm sorry ladies.

That engagement leads to him saying…

Why do you keep repeating I stood you up twice? Don't you think I know that? And that it sucks? Well if you knew why'd you do it twice?

I've been stood up before, I understand it sucks. Really, Do you???

You don't even care that I had to fly across country without my phone this morning. You're right I don't.

I'm a nice guy. But are you? Standing a girl up twice doesn't really qualify as nice in my book.

I don't think we should see each other anymore. Well, I think standing me up twice sealed that deal buddy.

And lot's of other nonsense that I don't feel like repeating.

Here's what I should've done and hope that you can remember to do if this ever happens to you. Which I would NEVER EVER want and YES I know it's hard to be rational in the moment.

1. Don't engage. If he really feels bad he'll pick up the phone to apologize and immediately re-schedule.
2. Don't believe the excuses. If he didn't do #1 I hate to say it but it's all just excuses.
3. Remember your friends from college may not be the same person years later, take them for what they are now AND DON'T make excuses for them.
4. If you do decide to engage say your piece then move on. Don't continue in conversation it only inflates their ego.
5. Go Out. Don't sit at home wallowing. Call your mom and GF's CRY IT OUT then GET OUT of the house and do something. 

Remember you're a beautiful Queen and Know Your Worth! 

Xoxo, @kellithinks

P.S. Stay tuned for Part 2 of The Single Girl's Guide on How to Handle Being Stood Up Not Once (But Twice) on the Same Weekend. 
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