2/19/2018 0 Comments Single By ChoiceMany people often ask me why I’m single, and I figured a great way to close off this last full week of February would be to tell you.
SINGLE BY CHOICE. I can now say it’s been a year since my last “Relationship” and about 5 Months since me and my Guy Friend who landed in my “It’s Complicated” box called it quits. It was actually my Guy Friend who helped me come to the reasoning that maybe it was time to just get to know me a bit better. So why am I not speaking with this Guy Friend (Who we’ll call Dan) who helped me come to that reasoning. Well Dan and I stopped speaking because he wanted get to know himself as a single person because he was very much “my person” as I was his. What I mean by “My Person” (You Non Grey’s Anatomy Watching Readers. LOL) is that we reached out and told each other about everything, we spoke throughout the day and in the evenings after a night out as well. So his thinking was as long as we had each other, he at least wasn’t going to truly be single. I then started thinking about his reasoning. And realized even through my dating relationships with other guys I probably went to him more about my thoughts then the guys I was actually seeing. Example #1- I was seeing this guy who broke up with me Christmas Eve, his reasoning I wasn’t as smart as a girl who went to an Ivy League and I didn’t know how to pour wine properly (We’ll call him Princeton F*ck Boy) and although sad about it I bounced back rather quickly because I had Dan to turn too. Dan immediately wrote this dude off for me and joked about how I didn’t want to be with a Princeton Guy anyway. AND we both laughed at my inability to pour wine the “proper way”. Little does Princeton F*ck Boy know some days I drink it straight from the bottle. LOL. Example #2 - I started seeing a guy fairly soon after Princeton F*ck Boy and he broke up with me around Valentine’s Day last year. This guy was the case of the he moved to quickly and it made me nervous and he could sense my hesitance. Oh and he was upset like ALOT because he worked on the Hillary Clinton campaign and we all know how that ended. He took things hard almost daily. Which I got but I didn’t want to hear about it daily. AND The funny thing with this one is during this time Dan started reaching out whenever he knew I was on a date with this guy. Think he could feel this guy was trying to pull me away. But he was there for me when Mr. Moving too fast decided he wanted to put the breaks on things because I wasn’t reciprocating as fast and then apparently I was reciprocating too fast. With both of these guys I always had Dan there throughout the dating process to vent and immediately after. And although hurt, I bounced back quickly after those two situations because Dan was in my corner. He was right, we both needed a break from each other to truly be single. I needed to break my F*ck Boy dating pattern and become the strong force I am in my work life in my dating relationships. I have to say it’s been great getting to know me. At first it was weird not having Dan to turn too because I realized how often I did turn to him. And then it was great! I finally stopped wondering about Dan (as much. LOL) and I started doing things for me. More girls nights. More nights in. More hiking. More creating. JUST MORE of everything. AND There’s just a lot less worrying in my life, by forming a stronger relationship with myself I’ve learned to filter the F*ck Boys a lot quicker. I’ve also learned to say NO to situations that I don’t see necessarily going anywhere. No time to waste over here. My time is precious. Single by Choice does not mean I’m alone and miserable. It means I simply choose me more because I know what I want and I don’t have time to waste with someone who’s not giving that. I encourage all my single ladies to give this a try at least once in your life. Stop bouncing from guy to guy and choose yourself for once. It’ll be the best decision you make. Xoxo, @kellithinks
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Valentine’s Day is THIS WEEK and whether you’re celebrating that or Galentine’s Day. I have some ideas for all my single ladies out there! Whatever you do this week, don’t sit at home and be miserable. You’re worth soo much more then that. Show yourself some love (because we should wait for no man to do that) and go do something for you! Xoxo, @KelliThinks
Man Crush Movie Night When: Whenever! Put three of your celeb crushes names in a hat (Mine would be Zac Efron, Zac Efron, and Zac Efron. Lol!) and then choose! Whoever you picked, find a movie they’ve been in and watch it that evening. Choose a good one to enjoy with some wine, candy, a girlfriend, and some popcorn!! Cinespia Movie Night - Roman Holiday When: February 14th. Doors Open at 7pm Is there a better way to Celebrate Valentine’s Day with the Ladies then watching Audrey Hepburn and putting on your best Formal Gown?! We think not. Cocktails, Live Music, DJ, and Photo Booths all in the historic setting of the Los Angeles Theatre you’re bound to have a fun night full of lots of smiles and picture opportunities. Spread Galentine’s Love When: Whenever! Sit down and write little notes (digital or handwritten) to send off to your Gal Pals. When they get it, it’ll for sure put a smile on their face! Listen/Participate in the Love Hurts Story Slam - The Moth When: February 14th. Doors Open at 6:30PM. Have a story you want to tell about a relationship that made you go ouch?? Well The Moth is giving you a chance to pull a Taylor Swift in speech format. This is sure to be a fun night listening to other tales and possibly telling your own. Oh, and they hold this event at a bar so you can drink too! Treat Yo’ Self! When: Whenever! Make sure you take time to tell yourself how much you love you this week as well! Go get a mani + pedi, go to the spa, make a romantic dinner for one that you enjoy while watching your man crush movie. Whatever you do, just be a little selfish and spoil you! Celebrate at Tiki No in North Hollywood When: February 14th. Bar Opens at 5PM. Karaoke Starts at 9PM. What could make you happier then going to a tiki bar?? Just saying the name makes me smile and Tiki No in North Hollywood is going to have $7 drink specials all night. AND karaoke starts at 9PM so you can sing all the Adele and Mariah love songs your heart desires! 2/5/2018 0 Comments Where To meet "the one"Lately I’ve been getting asked what dating apps I use or where I go and what I do to meet the guy that could potentially be “The One”.
First off, if I’m being completely honest, right now my focus hasn’t been dating. Am I interested and attracted to men? Why Yes I Am!! But, am I actively putting myself out there? No, not at all!! For personal reasons, I put the brakes on my dating life but if the right situation comes along, I'm not opposed. BUT I was having a GREAT time for awhile dating and meeting new people and here are some of the things I was doing that may or may not work for you. Everyone has to do what’s right for them. Unfortunately, there’s no proven method for find your Prince Charming. Speed Dating - I LOVED doing speed dating. Maybe it was the sorority girl coming out in me but moving onto a new person every 5 minutes or so was perfect for me. To me this is much better then a dating app because I was able to see the ACTUAL person and get a feel of their conversation skills and if we clicked. Dating apps can have that prolonged back and forth messaging time and speed dating helped me filter in about 5 minutes. For busy people this can be a great alternative to dating apps and what’s even better is you don’t have to worry about a thing. Just have a fun night out, meet some new people and within the next day or so you see who you match with. So if you’re looking for something a little different BUT fun to try, give this a go! I guarantee you’ll at least be entertained throughout the evening. Dating Apps - I have done dating apps too, I feel if you’re a millennial it’s just the new norm of how you meet people especially in big city environments. I wouldn’t say I have a favorite one but these are the ones I’ve used and have had success with or know some GFs who have had success on them.
Going Out - What an interesting concept, meeting someone not from a dating app! LOL. But really, GO OUT! Go out with your girls and just have a good time. Don’t got out with the intentions of meeting a guy, go out with the intention of having fun! What I mean by that is by genuinely interacting and engaging with who you came with (and not on your social media constantly), people see that! TRUST, guys will approach you if they see you having a good time, it’s that natural glow they’re interested in. No one including yourself have time for games! These are just some of the things I’ve done, and I encourage you to give it a go! For more dating tips and suggestions make sure you sign up for my newsletter where I’ll bring in dating experts to give tips to take your dating life to the next level. Xoxo, @kellithinks 1/29/2018 0 Comments The Ultimate Galentine’s Day Gift Guide (But Ultimately Really An Excuse To Buy Something For Yourself) Looking for the perfect Galentine's Day Gift for your ladies or just to treat yo' self?! Scroll through the list below, you'll find everything you need to make it through to the 15th. :D XO, @kellithinks (Clickable Links on Pictures Below) |
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